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👋 People spend decades crafting their professional stories—carefully edited performances of success. Yet I notice the final edit often reads differently. This week, I've looked at how LinkedIn profiles compare to obituaries. The gap between them tells us something about what actually matters in the end.

As Women's History Month continues, I've included a special look at how women present their professional achievements versus how they're remembered later.

Step into our galleries. I think you'll find something that makes you think differently about your own story. And don't miss our early access offer for next week's special guest curator!

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↓ Life's Final Edit: A Data Story

↓ Guided Tour: LinkedIn vs. Obituary

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↓ Your Digital Afterlife

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FEATURED EXHIBIT: FINAL EDIT  🖼️

What Endures in Life’s Last Narrative

🔍 Analyzed: In our study of 132 obituaries, we've discovered a striking contrast between how we present ourselves professionally and how we're ultimately remembered. This analysis reveals what truly matters at life's end — and it's not what appears on most LinkedIn profiles.

🧵 Threads Found:

Professional vs. Personal Legacy

Key Takeaways

• For every 1 mention of professional life, there are 2 mentions of personal legacy

• Even when careers are mentioned, they're often framed in terms of service, mentorship, or impact on others, rather than titles and accolades

How Men & Women are Remembered Differently

Gender Differences in Detail

• Women's obituaries emphasize relationships and nurturing or caregiving roles, volunteer work, and qualities like "warmth" and "kindness"

• Men's obituaries focus more on work, professional achievements appear 3x more often, and also achievement qualities like "integrity" and "hardworking"

Unexpected Highlights

The most revealing aspects of obituaries are elements rarely found on professional profiles:

• Lifelong hobbies make a mark: Fishing, gardening, painting

• Military service consistently mentioned: Framed as duty and sacrifice

• Community contributions carry weight: Mentorship, volunteering, hosting gatherings

This analysis shows people are remembered primarily for:

• Who they were to others (relationships)

• How they made others feel (character)

• What they believed in (values)

• How they spent their time (interests)

To explore these findings more deeply and understand what they mean for your own story, follow our Guided Tour: LinkedIn vs. Obituary below, where we'll walk through the gap between professional presentation and lasting legacy—and how to bridge it.

Methodology: This analysis combines data from obituaries published in February-March 2025, representing individuals varying in age, gender, profession, and geographic location.

COMING SOON TO OUR GALLERIES 📅

Guest Curator: Alice Elm 

"If you live in it, I can decorate it."

Next week, interior decorating sensation Alice Elm brings her distinctive eye to The Thread as our next guest curator. She'll share her home spring refresh selections and we’ll have a chat about her journey from banking executive to TikTok phenomenon.

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GUIDED TOUR: LINKEDIN VS. OBITUARY 🔑 

The Stories We Tell

TOUR MAP:

🔵 STOP 1: The Professional Narrative Gap ← You are here

🟣 STOP 2: The Confidence Myth

🟢 STOP 3: The Legacy Test

🟠 STOP 4: Closing the Gap

Welcome to this special exhibit. As we move through these galleries together, I invite you to observe the striking contrast between how humans present themselves professionally and how they're ultimately remembered.

🔵 STOP 1: The Professional Narrative Gap

Exhibit Hall A

As we stand in this first gallery, notice the displays before you. On one wall, LinkedIn profiles highlight skills, achievements, and metrics. On the opposite wall, obituaries showcase relationships, character, and impact. Resume versus eulogy.

The research displayed here reveals something fascinating: LinkedIn analyzed over 141 million profiles and found men frequently erase their junior roles, while women list 11% fewer skills than men with identical experience levels.

We're all editing our professional stories, but to what end?

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🟣 STOP 2: The Confidence Myth

Reflection Gallery

Let's move into this next space, where we examine a common misconception.

During Women's History Month, I've been especially drawn to this collection showing how women tell their professional stories.

Notice the Harvard research displayed here — it reveals "I lack confidence" isn't actually the issue. Women rate themselves just as capable as men. The real challenge? Society judges confident women differently.

In this case study from Forbes, a sales candidate undermines her own strengths: "I'm extremely organized... It's almost like I'm too organized, to the point where it can become annoying." She did this three times in one interview.

Why? Women understand that being seen as "too confident" comes with labels men don't face. This awareness costs women an estimated $500,000 in lifetime earnings.

But observe this contrasting display: in obituaries, those downplayed achievements often take center stage. Death brings the final, more honest edit.

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🟢 STOP 3: The Legacy Test

Interactive Installation

This installation invites your participation. Take a moment to consider:

If your LinkedIn became your obituary tomorrow, would you be proud of that story?

• Does it show what truly matters to you?

• Have you hidden parts of your journey that shaped who you are?

• Would the people who know you best recognize you?

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🟠 STOP 4: Closing the Gap

Exit Gallery

As we conclude our tour, I'd like to show you practical approaches for aligning professional narratives with lasting legacy. You don't need to abandon ambition to create a more authentic professional story:

• Include your ability to connect and build community

• Acknowledge your transformations and lessons learned

• Describe your impact on people, not just organizations

• Recognize those who helped you along the way

Reflection

Before leaving this exhibit, sit with this thought:

The gap between how we present ourselves and how we're remembered isn't necessarily hypocrisy—it's the distance between aspiration and impact. Your LinkedIn shows what you hope to become. Your obituary shows what you actually meant to others.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if those stories were the same?

THREADS FROM THE CURATOR’S DESK 🗂️

IDENTITY ARTIFACTS: How we craft, edit, and leave behind our stories

🏷️ On Time & Relationships:

⏳ If you visit just one exhibit this week, make it Tim Urban's most shared essay ever — a simple collection of dots that will transform how you see relationships. After calculating the weeks left in his life, Urban reveals something far more alarming than mortality itself: why you've likely already used up 93% of your in-person time with certain loved ones, even if you're still young. His three concrete recommendations for approaching what he calls "the tail end" might fundamentally change your priorities starting today. [Wait But Why → 5 min read]

🏷️ On Character Building:

💫 David Brooks discovered a pattern while meeting truly remarkable people — they prioritized entirely different qualities than those listed on their resumes. His exploration identifies specific inner virtues that create what he calls "an unfakeable inner light." While most excel at building careers, Brooks reveals why we struggle with developing these deeper character traits. What's the first counterintuitive step he recommends that contradicts everything our achievement culture demands? [The New York Times → 7 min read]

🏷️ On Professional Evolution:

📉 Arthur Brooks examines a truth we prefer to ignore: your professional abilities will begin declining earlier than you expect. Drawing from research across various fields, Brooks explores why so many successful people struggle with relevance in their later decades. Rather than offering standard retirement advice, he provides a framework for pivoting from "fluid intelligence" to "crystallized intelligence" while building a more fulfilling second act. The surprising inflection point he identifies might change how you approach your career today. [The Atlantic → 10 min read]

🏷️ On Digital Afterlife: 

💻 There’s a startling gap in end-of-life planning: while 74% of millennials have appointed a digital executor, nearly 90% of seniors haven't considered what happens to their online identity after death. This oversight leaves sensitive information vulnerable and creates unexpected conflicts among heirs. The four-step process they outline includes one legal document that most estate planners overlook entirely. The final recommendation might be the most important of all. [Consumer Affairs → 3 min read]

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Women at the Crossroads 

Last week, we explored those decisive moments when women choose paths that reshape everything. Discover the patterns found in obituaries of women who stood at crossroads and chose differently than expected.

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Until next week, keep curating meaning in your own life—one thread at a time.