🧵 Women at the Crossroads

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👋 March brings Women's History Month, and with it, a chance to explore those decisive moments when women choose paths that reshape everything. This week, I found patterns in the obituaries of women who stood at crossroads and chose differently than expected.

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🧵 Threads Found: Looking through this week's obituaries, I found myself drawn to the moments when these women made unexpected choices — decisions that went against prevailing expectations or charted entirely new territories. These pivotal moments defined them more than any job title ever could. 

Crossing Borders, Creating New Lives

Kayoko Kish (1929-2025) took an extraordinary leap when she left Hokkaido, Japan in the 1950s for America— a path few Japanese women of her time pursued outside of wartime marriages. In the U.S., she found love with Richard Kish and they built a 50-year marriage. Rather than abandoning her cultural skills, she reinvented herself by turning her mastery of traditional Japanese doll-making into a jewelry career at Made-Rite Pearl Company in Troy, Michigan. She worked there until she was 90 before retiring in 2019.

Breaking Professional Boundaries

Lucy Wiseman (1937-2025) defied expectations in 1973 when she decided to become a machinist at Caterpillar, Inc. in East Peoria and Mossville until 1986. During this period, manufacturing floors were overwhelmingly male, with women making up only a fraction of the industrial workforce. While working in this environment, she nurtured her artistic identity and was described as "quite an artist" who "loved painting" — a reminder that breaking barriers doesn’t mean abandoning one’s creative soul.

Mildred Reese (1928-2025) similarly defied expectations when, after moving from Cleveland to Fort Wayne, she became "self-trained in personal finances, medicinal herbs and remedies" for her family's well-being. In an era when women were often directed to rely on male financial advisors and traditional doctors, she chose self-education and independence.

Creating Institutions Without Credit

Jean Harley (1927-2025) made a consequential choice that affected thousands of future students. In 1962, she decided to work for the newly formed University Founders Fund office to help establish Brock University. For eight years, she tirelessly raised money, then continued working at the university until 1990, despite receiving little recognition. Her obituary noted that during the university's 50th anniversary celebration, she was initially left off the guest despite her 28 years of service to the institution she helped create. Her obituary said she was "a silent person that accomplished great things." I think that's true of many women whose names we don't know, but whose decisions changed their communities.

Building Communities Through Service

Margaret Ann Parmer (1939-2025) made a choice that expanded the traditional boundaries of motherhood when she opened her home for babysitting. Her decision to care for "over a hundred children" throughout her life created a wider definition of family and community care. Alongside this work, she maintained a vibrant presence at sporting events, becoming "an avid Pontotoc Warrior fan" who "attended every possible event her grandchildren and great grandchildren was involved in."

Mary Jane Carter (1932-2025) also redefined expectations around age and service. The obituary noted she "truly loved children" and chose to treat "each child as a uniquely treasured individual, whether they were one of her own grandchildren or great-grandchildren, they were in her care at the church nursery, or they were a child of a stranger." This deliberate choice to extend her nurturing far beyond family obligations created countless meaningful connections.

Redefining Later Life

Carol Schreiber (1923-2025) defied the limitations often placed on aging women. She continued playing tennis until she was 80 and was still dancing at 95. Far beyond when many would have stopped such physical activities. Even at 101, she maintained the connections and curiosity that had defined her life. Her obituary noted she "never stopped learning and was never too old to try something new." When many of her peers might have narrowed their social circles, she chose to remain actively engaged with her community as "a great hostess" who "loved entertaining."

Eva Stone (1924-2025) similarly refused to accept a diminished role in her later years. After moving to The Williams Home in 1999, she created a vibrant life there for 23 years, playing bridge and Bible trivia, and volunteering in the residents' store. At a time when society often makes older women invisible, she chose to remain engaged and contributory.

Looking at these women's pivot points makes me wonder: What unexpected choices have shaped your own life? When have you decided to step beyond what others expected of you? I'd love to hear your stories of moments when you chose differently. Share in a few sentences by hitting reply on this email. I'll include them in a future issue of The Thread. You can remain anonymous…just let me know.

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Turning Points: Women Who Choose

🏷️ On Friendship & Resilience:

💛 Ann Patchett's "These Precious Days" stopped me in my tracks. Her story about unexpected friendship during cancer treatment reveals how connection becomes a lifeline. When she describes Sooki painting in her studio, finding herself while time was running short, I thought about how relationships often show us who we really are. [Harper's Magazine]

🏷️ On Choosing Yourself:

🦋  "The Crane Wife" by CJ Hauser feels like a conversation with a friend who finally tells the truth. Her decision to call off her wedding, then study whooping cranes instead, offers a window into what happens when women stop making themselves smaller. Don't we all need that reminder sometimes? [The Paris Review]

🏷️ On Duty Through Perseverance:

🔥 Dr. Rashida N'gouamba lost her home in the Eaton Fire but showed up for her patients the next day. Her words "When I make a commitment, I stay in that mood. Babies don't stop," struck me as a perfect example of choosing purpose over circumstance. Her story shows how women often build stability for others even when their own foundations are shaken. [AfroLA]

🏷️ On Rewriting History:

✍️ Nikole Hannah-Jones created The 1619 Project because she noticed what history books overlooked. Her work centers Black women's contributions to American democracy in ways that shift our understanding of who builds nations. This kind of attention to the overlooked changes what we collectively value and remember. [The New York Times Magazine]

🏷️ On Safeguarding Stories:

🏡 Sandra Cisneros writes, "I am building a house with my hands." Her essay on preserving stories from Mexican-American neighborhoods shows how women become keepers of cultural memory. Her House on Mango Street continues to carve out space for voices that might otherwise be lost. [National Endowment for the Arts]

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